WIFE DESPERATE TO ESCAPE HER PESKY MOTHER-IN-LAW
시어머니의 참견 때문에 이혼을 생각 중이에요.
Dear Abby:
My husband and I are very happy. However, his mother is an intrusive pest.
I am a stay- at- home mom, and she calls all day long.
When I answer, I get an earful about how often her son calls or doesn't call her, or she finds fault with the things I do with my children.
If I don't answer, she comes over to our house.
The other day, she knew that I was going to my mom's office to drop some stuff off and help her with some things.
When I arrived, there was my husband's mother, sitting there waiting for me.
Also, when my husband confides in her, like when I got pregnant, she takes it upon herself to call my family and announce it instead of allowing me to tell them myself.
I love my husband. We are happy together.
But I have reached the point where I'm beginning to consider divorce in order to get away from his mother.
He has offered to speak to her, but I feel bad
because I know she'll know I asked him to say something.
What should I do?
-- TEARING MY HAIR OUT
Dear TEARING:
You have described a lonely, needy person with too much time on her hands.
Rather than expecting you to entertain her, she needs to get a life of her own.
Your husband should talk to his mother and encourage her to find other interests.
If she blames you, so be it.
However, he would be doing her a favor to help her investigate what activities and opportunities are available for seniors in your community in case she's so passive she doesn't know how to reach out.
어휘 및 표현
1. intrusive : entering without invitation 참견하는, 방해하는
2. pest : a persistently annoying person 성가신 사람
3. stay-at-home : a person who stays at or works from home 집에만 있는
4. earful : a scolding or reprimand 잔소리
1. drop off : unload passengers or cargo 승객이나 짐을 내려 놓다
2. time on one's hands : an interval with nothing to do 할일 없는 시간
3. so be it : let it be so, accept it as it is 그대로 받아들이다
해석
WIFE DESPERATE TO ESCAPE HER PESKY MOTHER-IN-LAW
시어머니의 참견 때문에 이혼을 생각 중이에요.
Dear Abby:
My husband and I are very happy. However, his mother is an intrusive pest.
남편과 저는 아주 행복해요. 하지만, 시어머니께서 참견을 너무 많이 하시네요.
I am a stay- at- home mom, and she calls all day long.
저는 가정주부라 집에만 있는데 시어머니가 하루 종일 집에 전화를 하시거든요.
When I answer, I get an earful about how often her son calls or doesn't call her, or she finds fault with the things I do with my children.
전화를 받으면 남편이 어머니께 얼마나 자주 전화를 하는지 혹은 전화를 너무 안 한다고 잔소리를 하세요. 그게 아니면 제가 자녀를 키우는 방법에 대해 흠을 잡으시고요.
If I don't answer, she comes over to our house.
제가 전화를 안 받으면 어머니께서는 집으로 직접 찾아오세요.
The other day, she knew that I was going to my mom's office to drop some stuff off and help her with some things.
하루는 제가 친정 어머니 사무실에 들를 일이 있었어요. 뭘 좀 갖다 드리고 도와드릴 일도 있었거든요. 물론 시어머니께서도 이에 대해 알고 계셨고요.
When I arrived, there was my husband's mother, sitting there waiting for me.
그런데 집에 돌아와보니 시어머니께서 저희 집에서 저를 기다리고 계시더라고요.
Also, when my husband confides in her, like when I got pregnant, she takes it upon herself to call my family and announce it instead of allowing me to tell them myself.
뿐만 아니라 제 남편이 시어머니께 제가 임신했다는 것 같은 개인적인 일들을 이야기하면, 시어머니께서 제가 친정 집에 말하기도 전에 직접 연락하시는 거에요.
I love my husband. We are happy together.
저는 남편을 사랑해요. 함께 있으면 행복하죠.
But I have reached the point where I'm beginning to consider divorce in order to get away from his mother.
하지만 저는 이제 시어머니로부터 벗어나기 위해서 남편과의 이혼을 생각해보는 정도까지 이르렀어요.
He has offered to speak to her, but I feel bad because I know she'll know I asked him to say something.
남편은 시어머니께 한번 이야기해 보겠다고 하지만, 그렇게 되면 시어머니께서 저 때문이라는 걸 아실 테니 기분이 안좋구요.
What should I do?
제가 어떻게 해야 할까요?
-- TEARING MY HAIR OUT
Dear TEARING:
You have described a lonely, needy person with too much time on her hands.
편지의 내용을 보니, 시어머니께서는 아주 외롭고 도움이 필요한데다, 마땅히 할 일이 없는 분 같네요.
Rather than expecting you to entertain her, she needs to get a life of her own.
시어머니께는 당신이 자신을 즐겁게 해주기를 기대할 게 아니라 자신의 삶을 찾아야 해요.
Your husband should talk to his mother and encourage her to find other interests.
당신의 남편은 시어머니가 다른 관심거리를 찾도록 설득해야 하고요.
If she blames you, so be it.
그래서 시어머니께서 당신을 탓하시더라도, 그냥 내버려두고 받아들이세요.
However, he would be doing her a favor to help her investigate what activities and opportunities are available for seniors in your community in case she's so passive she doesn't know how to reach out.
그리고 어머니께서 소극적이셔서 다른 관심거리를 어떻게 찾는지 모르실 수도 있으니, 남편께서 지역
사회의 노인들을 위한 활동이나 기회를 찾아드리면 어머니께 아주 큰 힘이 될 거에요.
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