DEAR ABBY:
I recently met a gorgeous woman Ill call "Giselle."
After we had dated for a couple of months and became physically involved, she told me she had had gender reassignment surgery and used to be a man !
I was, to say the least, shocked and deeply disturbed.
I did not punch out Giselle as I would have liked to -- which brings me to my question.
What is the etiquette regarding physically confronting someone like that?
Is it the same as hitting a girl?
We're roughly the same size.
-- DISTRESSED IN VIRGINIA
DEAR DISTRESSED:
Because Giselle is now a female, it would, indeed, have been the same as hitting a girl, and I'm glad you restrained yourself.
I have a feeling that she was probably more hurt that you stopped seeing her than any physical blow you might have inflicted.
As to the "etiquette" regarding hitting her, if you hit someone of either gender, it is assault and battery and it's a crime that can land you in jail.
Be glad you controlled your temper.
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