What things can parents do to strengthen the relationship with their children? Discuss your ideas. Then, talk about things parents do or say that damage or hurt the parent-child relationship.
HELPFUL TIP: Bringing children into the world is the easy part; raising and teaching them correct principles is more challenging. If you are a good example to them, they are likely to follow in your footsteps.
1. Where did Randall probably grow up? A. in Indiana B. in Venezuela C. in Utah
2. What was his undergraduate major? A. English B. Spanish C. Japanese
3. How many children does he have? A. two B. three C. four
4. What does Randall do on his hikes with his children? A. He points out the wildlife and plants along the way. B. He enjoys telling them stories about his life. C. He teaches them how to survive in emergency situations.
5. What point does Randall make about raising children? A. Enroll kids into schools early to help them learn better. B. Be consistent in the way you administer discipline in the home. C. Talk with your kids about problems so they learn how to solve them.
III. Post-Listening Exercises
Discuss the strengths and weaknesses of your own family and then explain what you feel are the keys to a successful family, both emotionally and intellectually. Are there outdoor activities like hiking, biking, or camping that you enjoy doing together? What things can families do together to strengthen the family relationship? Discuss these topics with a partner and see if your families do similar activities.
Correct answers:
1. in Indiana 2. Spanish 3. four 4. He enjoys telling them stories about his life. 5. Talk with your kids about problems so they learn how to solve them.
However, my greatest interests are my family. Years ago, I wanted to make something of myself in my profession . . . you know . . . get ahead in life. However, I realized that the most important things in life lived within the walls of my own home, and today, I try to put them first. My kids wouldn't remember me for the work I did outside of the home; they would only recall the moments we spent together.
Therefore, I enjoy spending time with my family. I have four children, and we go hiking and camping together, usually in Utah. On our hikes, we often talk about life, and I tell stories or share personal experiences. When I do this, I can focus on the kids without the distractions of video games or the Internet. Telling stories sounds easy, but when you have to think of a new story on a hot, 12-kilometer hike through the desert, you have come up with ideas off the top of your head.
Now, this doesn't mean we don't have problems; all families face challenges in their lives, and our family is no exception. However, we try to talk openly about our problems, and we try solve our problems together. Building a strong family takes time, but it is worth the effort.
Family pictures from hiking trips in Utah:
Right: Park Avenue, Arches National Park
Below: Mill Creek Canyon, Moab, Utah
Bottom Right: Eye of the Whale, Arches National Park
Key Vocabulary
make something of oneself(idiom): become successful in a career - My dad never thought I would make something of myself because I didn't graduate from a prestigious university, but I proved him wrong.
get ahead(phrasal verb): become successful in the business world - If you want to get ahead in life, you have to set clear goals.
realize(verb): understand the importance of something - Many young married couples don't realize how challenging raising children can be until they have children of their own.
recall(verb): remember something from the past - I can't recall a time when my parents argued in front of me and my brothers.
focus on(verb): pay careful and direct attention to a particular person or thing - When people focus too much on their careers, they sometimes neglect their family's needs.
distraction(noun): something that takes your attention away from another activity - Watching too much TV can be a big distraction from building a good relationship with children.
off the top of your head(idiom): think of something immediately without preparation - I felt really embarrassed when I couldn't remember her name off the top of my head.
IDIOMS!
"get ahead" = become successful in your business or career "Often, people give up time with their families to get ahead in life."